Sometimes anxiety makes me feel selfish—there’s so much going on in my head that I often don’t have room for other things or people. Meditation always helps with that, but there are still days when being present for myself and my partner is just about all I can manage. I find myself worrying that I’m a bad daughter and daughter-in-law, a bad granddaughter, or a bad friend because, as much love as I hold for the people in my life, some days (well, most days lately) I just need to focus on myself. I tend to feel really guilty for that, but I’ve noticed that mindfully holding space for ME always makes it easier to be there more effortlessly for others. Whenever I try to force it and put others first before taking care of my own needs, my interactions feel heavy and inauthentic.
“Our primary relationship needs to be with ourself (over our kids, our partner, our family, etc)—that if we fill up our own cup, and develop a solid inner union, we are able to be a solid and radiant lover, partner, and parent.” ✨ Thank you @juliet_allen for speaking to something that has been weighing on me lately. Never feel guilty for giving to yourself, because in the end it will allow you to be a brighter light for others! 🙏🏼